Do say / Don't say

Do Say:
"I'm so sorry for your loss."
"I don't really know what to say."
"I will not forget TheirBaby'sName."
"Take as much time to grieve as you need."

"What day can I bring you a meal next week?"

Don't Say:
"You can have more." (Yeah well, maybe we can, maybe we can't.  But we wanted THIS ONE.)
"God has a plan."  (Could be, but right now we think it sucks, so keep this one to yourself.)
"The baby must have had something wrong with him/her."  (Oh hello, I didn't realize you had a medical degree and access to my records.  Yes, sometimes babies die because they are very sick, sometimes healthy babies die for no reason at all.)